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Salma Gundi

You are so awesome. Thank you for writing that. I especially liked this part "I couldn't miss what I didn't know."

Best wishes to you.


Agree with Salma completely - such an awesome post. You are a complete inspiration. Confident and smart and witty. I love it. Congrats on making the decision to change and doing it. You rock.


An awesome post! I've lost about 60 lbs. in the last 4-5 years and am working on the last 10-15. Like you I wasn't necessarily unhappy with being overweight, my wife wasn't terrribly concerned about the 'outer package', but when I became a grandfather 5 years ago I decided it was time to do something. Now 'grandpa' runs marathons and beyond and can keep up with the grandkids.

Keep up the good work, you're an inspiration.


Did you ever know that you're my heeeeero? Magnificent entry :)

Ms. Purple

BRAVO! Thank you for saying what I was thinking. The woman in the article is simply making excuses for her dismissal from the contest. The self-promoting bimbo is at heart a "fat-hating knuckledragger" herself which speaks volumes about her integrity and character, or lack there of!


I feel the same way. It's why I don't relate to some of the fat memoirs I've read because the authors are so self-loathing.


That's a great post. You're right that the woman who wrote "Why You Can Never Be Fat And Happy" has no right to speak for everyone. And she certainly has no right to imply that you don't deserve or can't have happiness just because you're overweight.


I love this post. In the last 4 months I've lost 30lbs and I have another 15 or so to go. I had a great life even while I was "fat." Other people told me I wouldn't find a great boyfriend or that I'd be held back at work. They were wrong. I met a WONDERFUL guy who totally accepted me 30lbs heavier than I am now. I have been very successful at work, and I have great friends. I think losing the weight (and working on maintaining it) will add to my life but it doesn't MAKE my life. I also truly believe that one of the reasons I'm having such success NOW after many attempts is that the rest of my life is GREAT. I have an unbelieveably supportive boyfriend, a job with minimal stress and a great support network. All things that help me stay "on track."

Being fat or being thin shouldn't define who I am, it's only one part of me.

Again, I loved your post!


A great post. I've been reading your posts for a long time and I think this is one of the best.

Thanks for your humor and realistic goals--they've really helped me along the way.


YAY to you for your wonderful essay!!!

Self-loathing takes a lot of time and energy, and if people spend their precious time and energy hating fat or hating themselves because they're fat, they'll never have the time and energy to do all those wonderful things they want to do!

It wasn't until I started to love myself just as I was, all 397 pound of me, that I had the energy to travel where- and whenever I wanted to, buy beautiful clothes, get massages and facials, and, yes, even exercise and eat healthy food. And, yes, 210 pounds came off and hasn't come back...Strange what transformations can occur when we love ourselves as we are!


That was an amazing post!




I really like what you have to say.
Im new to the blogs and have seen a few that really moved me like yours. Im in the process of trying to lose weight ...again, and what you said about being happy with yourself, and thinking that if you lose the weight everything will change is the real reason I gained all of mine back. Nothing changed, and as it turns out nothing really needs to accpt my weight, but just for health, not for vanity.
I hope you dont mind, but I put a link to your site on mine.

Keep writing!


Thank you so much for this entry. I've read much of your archives, and have been inspired both by your weight loss and your great attitude. I agree wholeheartedly with what you wrote above and I think my attitude and degree of happiness with my life as a fat person is much the same. And furthermore, I can't imagine living a life where I felt I could never be happy just because I was fat. How difficult and terrible it would be just to go on living and get through the day if I hated myself and felt it was right and natural to hate myself. Life is hard enough as a fat person without feeling like it's impossible to be happy. Oh, and I (not to mention this is true of millions of other people who are fat or otherwise don't fit the ideal looks-wise), have also found a wonderful husband who has never made me feel other than perfectly beautiful and worthy of love through all my weight ups and downs. Not to say that this is not incredible good fortune--but finding your soul mate is incredibly good fortune whether you're fat or not.


Simply brilliant.

I feel that way myself. Unfortunately, for me it seems to work the other way - I am so happy I find it easy to 'cheat' because I don't want to make the sacrifices. Mind you, I am very active despite being overweight.


Very well put. I just ran across your blog and like it, already!


VERY good writing! I think that the world needs to read this kind of stuff -- from someone who knows. Thank you for your inspiration.

BTW, my blog is private right now only because of technical difficulties. It will be public again very soon (I hope). D


I just started reading your blog and wanted to say how much I love what you said about hating your size, not yourself. For me (and others, I'm sure), that's a really fine line. Keep up the good work!


I really enjoyed what you wrote. I am very large, but have a great life. I am successful in work and family (except for the guy...). Thanks for the inspiration.


How much do I love this entry? SO MUCH. It really resonates with feelings and thoughts that I've had. I never let "my fat" hold me back from enjoying my life. I traveled the world, got my graduate degree, became a therapist... all "in spite" of my size. Now I just want to feel better physically, like you. Anwyay, thanks for posting!


This is a great post, I really loved it and it has just helped me to love myself, and change the way of thinking. And I have just stopped to focus on what people say about me but just love myself and be myself.

once a gain great post.

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